The Vision Board

I have always been a visual person.

I learn well by looking at images, by drawing things, by seeing things.

When we speak of manifesting, we also must speak of creating the vibration to manifest.  I use the analogy of gardening.  We know what plants we’d like.  We have the seeds.  We loosen up the soil.  We get everything ready.  Then we plant the seeds, and tend to them.

A few years ago I was in a course ‘Intuitive Mastery‘ given by Lori Lipten and one of the sections was using to use chakra balancing, intention setting, and guided journeying as the set up to creating an inspired vision board.  I will say that today I jump right into my intuitive stream when doing my vision board, and it is an ever evolving process.

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I will usually get an inspiration, or a message.  (This wonderful little image to the right is typical of a message that comes into my awareness in perfect timing and which helps guide me in the new direction)

It says, for instance, it is time to revisit your vision board, and to pick out that which has either come to pass to allow room for more growth, to remove that which no longer serves the highest good as we constantly evolve, or sometimes ‘here is the blueprint for your new board’.

So, when I am teaching ‘How to Create a Vision Board’, we necessarily have to get into the art of preparation.  Preparing the self, preparing the energy, preparing the space, gathering the materials, even writing out the new blueprint or skeleton.  Over time I have come to a sort of hybrid board — a blend of pictures and words.  I have also evolved in that I no longer use magazines for my images, but instead use the iPhone and an app called Print Studio (it’s an inexpensive way to get high quality images on durable card stock, in sizes that work really well in my hands).

I maintain vision boards both at home and at work, and both up until this time were only slightly different.  Recently however I was given the intuitive message to ‘focus the office vision board on the office, it is currently too unfocused’.  Furthermore, I was given the insight to connect actual ‘business milestones’ with actual ‘business necessities’ then to blend in the visions, but to connect them with business realities.  In the past I noticed I would manifest something, but then almost always there was a blowback, a setback, or as if there was a net neutral transaction.  As such, I have felt stuck in this one endeavour for a few years.  My intuition tells me that this new board gives me a chance to manifest when appropriate, and also to enlist my staff and coworkers to be creative and joy-filled but with a cast iron grip on the realities of business, something I had not done in the past.
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And so there it is, above.  I am looking forward to seeing how this board functions, and grateful for the divine spirit dwelling within.  I am also grateful for my ability to share, and my desire to both experience a prosperous life, while also teaching others to do the same.

May you enjoy YOUR unique vision, and come to know YOUR inner voice.  May it lead you to your fulfillment.

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A Lovely Bout of Introspection

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facebook-logoI like to use Facebook as my own personal newspaper. It’s like that 8th grade class where you’re learning about mass communications, and they teach you ‘Who, What, When, Where, Why and How” as the skeleton for conveying news, send you scurrying to read newspapers, and then have you mock up your own hometown blend. What I post is usually something I have resonated with, and deemed worthy of sharing for a variety of reasons.  I respect the freedom of others to do the same.

The ‘feed’ is another topic altogether. This is the reverse. This is where I am fed what other people place on their facebook page, based on whatever criteria they use to distribute information. My general rule in reading is that I need, yes need, a variety of positive streams to assist me in creating the vibration I choose to live by. I frequently use the unfollow button, when a person consistently distributes some brand of negativism. More often, however, I find hidden gems.

But there’s another side, too. Sometimes somebody posts something which gives me a glimpse inside their heart, or their mind… and I find it riveting, compelling, thought provoking and then begin the process of self-inventory to see what exactly are my beliefs in this area: what inside me has been triggered.

Recently I read one such post. I will keep the writer anonymous. Here is what she wrote:

So this is for me. A little honesty therapy I think would make me feel “cleansed.” These are MY thoughts. They don’t have to be yours. If you find what I say offensive, well it might be time for us to part our separate ways, and that’s ok. 🙂
After several years of practicing yoga, going through a seriously intense yoga teacher training, and teaching for several years, I’ve come to the conclusion that Yoga is 98% bullshit. “Yogis” are in my experience the most deceitful, self-centered, non-authentic and downright nasty people that I’ve ever met despite the fact that they’d rather you think they’re peaceful, grounded, angelic like figures. You just can’t be one with the earth while wearing $120 spandex pants. I publicly acknowledge that my posing photos posted here and on Instagram were ridiculous and pretentious. I no longer wish to associate myself within that group of people. For my penance, I wish to save you $100+/month and several hours of your time… Stretch gently, and in regular ways at home daily in a non-heated, comfortable environment. Using that time, take some deep breaths, relax, and reflect about how lovely your life is. You’ll get all the benefits minus the hipster, trendy crap. You’re welcome and thank you! ”

The first thing that came to my mind when I read this was that I have learned to express my feelings from the first person. It’s unlikely that I am ever going to rail at you for being a narcissist or a hipster or something related to ” you “.  I might instead say that after intensive study, after a teacher training, after several years of teaching, that I have discovered that I do not like the yoga scene and I no longer feel that teaching yoga is a good for fit for me personally.  Or I might cite a personal issue that came up, and how I felt about it.  Or I might even just be aware that this no longer serves what I feel is my highest purpose, and I seek a change.

It’s been my own life experience that occasionally things I once thought were so important and so incredible became less so as I experienced growth and change. I have learned that it’s okay to have a change of heart, based upon new findings.

My observations and experiences regarding the world of yoga here in the west have up to this point however been completely and diametrically opposed to what is written above. Just the other day I was talking to a friend about how I had received an anonymous gift in the mail and that I thought perhaps it had been sent by a person I met in California two summers ago who had started a pay it forward gift exchange. He and his friend had offered a shared ride from the Reno airport to Squaw Valley and I was lucky enough to be their passenger. They’re really two of the coolest most open hearted loving talented creative people I’ve met. Are they trendy, good-looking and hip?  Hell yes.

Yogis are not, however, without fault. On the contrary they are humans just like me with flaws and frailties with fears insecurities and also with strength encourage and tenacity.

And it turned out my anonymous gift actually was from another yogi and close friend. Just because. How nice is that?

This morning in a class it became apparent to me that Yoga may look like a purely physical practice but what they say is true – it’s much more. It’s really not about pushing your body to the point of injury. It is however about pushing back on the boundaries of comfort and finding that metaphorical edge.  Like with many physical endeavors we gain lessons in courage. We come away more aware of our weaknesses ~ the things that hold us back ~ and a newfound sense of hope and strength and support.

As a result of showing up regularly I have become aware of myself as having a positive courageous and open heart. I have become aware that I like challenges. And I have also become aware that it times I simply fall apart.

As I continue to dwell on this I think — my view on yoga is not so much who you are and what labels I can apply, but who am I and what do I bring to my mat, to the studio, and off the mat – into life. I like to think I bring sincerity. That is, I will try new things, I will listen and do what the instructor says, even if I’m unable I am mentally envisioning and sending messages to my body to give its best effort. I also like to think I bring an open heart. I am genuinely interested in the subject and in you. Lastly I like to think I have no real agenda except to be present and let this adventure unfold before me.

I am a relative newcomer to yoga at just over 2 years. My yoga adventures have lead me to 4 countries including the US and many states, as well as festivals and workshops. Overwhelmingly I have found the people I meet to be perfectly imperfect, but fascinating in that they too are following a path that is challenging and captivating. They seem for the most part to be studious, dedicated and warm hearted.

instagram-logoI’m well aware that we live in the age of the selfie, of social media, and I’m aware of the controversial gurus who have, like the golf and tennis pros and personal trainers of ill repute, fallen prey to the temptation of misusing their power as teacher with their clientele.

I’m well aware that there are clothing and fashion trends and that companies market heavily to a hungry consumer base. I heard someone say recently “Yoga: love the practice hate the scene” … And here’s what I have to say about that. If I’m uncomfortable with someone or something then I just go somewhere else. Live and let live. But live.

I make a conscious choice to expand my view and experience base rather than narrow it.  With respect to Instagram, asana selfies and yoga challenges, I have found personal growth, a sense of community and improvement in my practice because of this practice.

So it is with gratitude I conclude this rambling essay. I plan to continue my yoga practice and my hippy thoughts and wear the clothes I want and listen to the music I like… And to my anonymous, frustrated friend, I thank you for writing your thought provoking post and I look forward to my next magical yoga adventure…

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Moving Toward Joy

The other day I came upon this image:IMG_3629

I immediately began to revisit some recent conversations, and some observations about what things about other’s life trajectory that really got me feeling happy and enthusiastic, light and motivated.

A friend and I talked about her family moving to Portland, and gradually into what we call a ‘Tiny Home’ (www.tinyhomebliss.com) … I get very sunshiny when I think of relocating to the west and the subject of either artisanal unique small homes or adaptive re-use… about workmanship, and unique designs.

IMG_3614I recently talked to two men with whom I share a career and both of whom made a conscious decision to leave the profession. They talked about the emotional struggle and the years tied up in making a heartfelt shift, but ultimatelyOLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA their ease and joy for having done so. This too connected me to a powerful sense of well being and hope.

Everyday I see and talk to and read about my loving friends who are tapping into their intuitive, their healing, and their desire to teach others to become more powerful in their choices. I can literally picture myself doing the same.  Some are already in positions where they feel on purpose, while others are in the same process I am — sometimes it seems illogical, yet it is the next right thing.

IMG_2961When I visit organic juice stores I always study everything there with an innate desire for that knowledge. I feel myself lift, elevate and see a purpose.  I can feel myself vibrating at a different level.  I beam.

As I experience adventures – travel, retreats, festivals, concerts… yoga studios here and there, and places where I meet like minded individuals — I feel most alive and at home, among the healthy and open hearted; the open minded.

At other times however there is a much heavier, much darker awareness as I continue to pursue something I originally did with conviction and great sense of divine purpose. In the past several years, it has become a means to an ends only. At a deeper level I do still have a sense of purpose contained within regarding this, but that the way I do it has to change if I am to be on my soul’s purpose.  For instance today I spoke with my CPA who believes that by taking the time away from work to explore our hopes and dreams accepts that there are punishments for this… And while it is logical to think and say that there are consequences for each action or inaction, the very thought of this is such a negative vibration I immediately turn away from it.  I do not believe in the need to be punished for our dharma.

 

What would I do if I knew I could not fail?  I would make an abrupt change to the amount of time I spend in my office, and the thriving office would support my employees and partner, as well as cover expenses and leave me income too.

Second, I would incorporate the business idea I have, and outfit one or two bikes.  I would set up card readers on phones, and we would start delivering our product to local parks and festivals as the weather gets warmer.  I am attracting a team to assist in this healthy adventure.adore van

Third I will get underway with Yoga teacher training, for the purpose of deepening my understanding of the practice and to provide me an opportunity to teach.

Fourth I would continue to travel to new places, really focusing upon whether a place resonates with me as a primary location to reside.  I am open to relocating.

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In the meantime I would continue to practice and add more in-studio time.  I would continue to stay close to and aware of what makes me feel alive.  I am inspired by what I am learning and feeling, and am connected to myself physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Fifth, I am open to all possibilities, not just the ones that occur to me consciously, but also to those that miraculously happen.  Not just business, but in all things.

 

Today I saw this Abraham-Hicks quote,
and will remind myself that everyday will
contain myriad gifts, and I am open
to discovering them.

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Yesterday after writing most of this, I began to feel very anxious.  This happens often when I write.  I write from the heart, and the critical voices do still come up.  I felt naked, and thought perhaps I would delete this article.  However, I regained my purpose:  If my experience and observation can help even one person, then it is worth confronting my own fears.

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Hello World… or Hello Private Journal!

It’s been a really interesting year thus far.

I weighed whether or not to actually ever write using this format ever again.

I took any of you who regularly read this blog on a journey with me. It all started out professionally, from a business perspective, but then evolved into a more experientially based ‘share’ about living my life and about trying to tap into clarity and intuition while remaining genuine…

At a certain point, going through what I was going through  (divorce, dating, love and even a broken heart…) it was just too much.  My sharing became private and personal and with only those who I trust.  I believe that was correct for me.  And maybe there’s a lesson in there for you as well.

It was through this process of ‘feeling’ and staying in touch with that… not trying to cover over it with distractions, that I discovered some amazing friends…again… I was transparent with them, and they supported me, loved me, and gave me information and feedback which helped me tune in to what I intuitively needed to do, and to tune into what I was supposed to be learning…

And then…moments ago…it occurred to me  that I entitled this blog ‘synergy’ and that by definition means:

Synergy is the interaction of multiple elements in a system to produce an effect different from or greater than the sum of their individual effects. The term synergy comes from the Greek word synergia συνέργια from synergosσυνεργός, meaning “working together”.

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I am actually sitting here smiling as I realize the delicious synchrodestiny.

You might even say this is an epiphany.  A paradigm shift.  A revelation.  A spiritual experience… A shift.

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I have discovered that the ‘journey’ I thought, NO, KNEW I was on… was not as I concluded, and therefore the dream I thought was broken, was not a dream, but an illusion.  The journey was that in showing up for my own life, and being an open heart, of reducing and of eliminating my expectations, and of really letting go… that I was surrounded by helpers and by guides and learned that the journey is THAT.

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My trusted friends gave me that… infinite love

I want to claim that I know I am far from perfect.  I make many mistakes.  I am human.  And yet I am, today, closer to fine than I have been in a long time.  I respect myself for making difficult decisions to follow an intuitive path that sometimes defies logic.  And I am please to have given myself the opportunity to travel and be open to new experiences.

Following my passions and allowing love in has been the best part of my journey… thus far.

Manage or Micro-manage?

Recently I sat down with a friend of mine who practices a dental specialty. The specialty was not the subject of this conversation. The subject of the conversation was “I feel like a JERK!”…This is an all too common scenario in business. Business owners, especially health care providers, have to face the dual role of being both gentle, compassionate, understanding and also being firm, prompt, demonstrative and confrontational. As a rule, we are either too confrontational and lack any real accurate sense of just how poorly we are percieved by others, or we want too much to be liked. Being liked completely conflicts with what is needed, yet it’s nearly impossible to triumph logic over emotion.

In the case at hand, my colleague had hired an office manager whom he felt was making all too frequent errors. The very first issue we had to discuss was his micro-managing. It turns out that he does indeed trust the person he has managing his office. The problem he had was that he’d never really been clear about what he expected from an office manager. He had no written or co-authored job description. When he percieved errors of omission or commission, he began to take over the role of office manager. In essence he usurped her role, and demoted her. He undercut her authority, and inadvertently damaged her validity in the process.

We together agreed that the following steps were necessary to remedy the situation:
1. Make a decision whether to try and repair the situation with the current employee, or terminate her and start fresh.
2. Make an accurate job description for Office Manager
3. Have ongoing meeting meeting and training (keep in mind this training is somewhat reciprocal in nature) in order to define the role, and in order to build trust and confidence. These meetings needed to be private, away from other staff, and confidential.
4. Really truly let this Office Manager manage.
5. Return to the role he is professionally trained to do – direct patient care, utilizing his skills in this specialized area of dentistry.
6. Not become involved in office politics or be a part of any passive aggressive and dysfunctional processes.

It seems so obvious. It isn’t. It’s completely counterintuitive. To become an effective leader, one has to be trained to train and then step aside. The right personnel will flourish under healthy conditions. If it’s one’s goal to have the most stress free working environment possible, then it’s criticial to focus on that which one does best, and find or train great people to compensate for our own shortcomings.

And that’s how we define ‘team’…

Picking up where one leaves off…

Have you ever had a friend come back into your life after an extended period? I have. There’s the initial excitement over having found them or having been found and reconnecting… We laugh about some of the good times, maybe remind one another of some long forgotten event, then catch each other up… It’s almost as if nothing has really changed; still friends, but life goes on…

That’s how this blog is.

It was my intention to fill you in on how I like to ‘back out’ goals and dreams from their endpoints, right back into real time today’s world – so I can make small, manageable changes in course today, and help myself to make that dream a reality.

Yet, when it gets right down to it, sometimes it’s more in the ‘doing’ than in the ‘telling’. And, that’s where I have been.

My long term goal with YPJB is to create a fundamentally passive business where I can help others in my field or the associated fields streamline, cut through their own ‘red tape’… not based upon my brilliance or excellence, but based upon my own mistakes and how they shaped me. Certainly, if I can help shortcut anyone’s path to their goals, I want to help. I am aware of the ‘Journey not Destination’ philosophy, but heartily believe that we do have many choices along the journey – why not learn from others?

I found that when I re-entered the profession on a nearly full time basis, my desire to write was lessened. I am not naturally inclined toward blogging, or for that matter journaling. And so, I chose to do other things. It was easy.

Here I am though, adding a blog post, and I think it speaks directly to the subject of Practice Management. That is to say — the easiest thing there is to do, is just ‘do’… do whatever pops up in front of me at any moment, and take care of it. What’s not so easy is to stretch beyond that and put a little effort into something new.

I suppose that if the demand for this particular service was high, and if simply creating a web presence and combining it in a simple way with social networking, then I would be ‘called in’, so to speak. This is not the case, or at least not at the present time.

Let me wrap this free flowing entry up for this day, and say that my dreams and goals are alive and well. I have been pursuing them as I began to describe. And my desire to help you, and others is still alive and well, just waiting for the opportunity.

BK

The link below will take you to my wordpress.org site where you will find this article.

http://yourpracticejustbetter.com/2011/01/18/picking-up-where-one-leaves-off/

What is your end point?

There’s a glib yet eerily prophetic saying that ‘those who fail to plan’ ostensibly ‘plan to fail’.

I tend to disagree, even though I am planner of goals… It’s been my experience that planning (our lives, our days, our financial future, our love life, whatever, really) really does assist me in creating a new reality or a new direction (provided the caveat that ‘it is in the greater good’). Not having an objective conversely does not mean we will not have a joyful life filled with successes – but only that for many of us, having a goal helps us to see tangible evidence of our desires becoming realities. I envy those who seemingly live life simply and completely in faith without planning and goal setting, however I am not that person. I am open and willing to become a convert!

With that in mind, I recall being asked, “What is your endpoint?” during a coaching and practice management course I was involved with. What kept coming to mind for me was that of being a healthy 80 year version of myself, running a 5K, and being supported by my friends and family across the finish line. It’s still a vision I hold for myself, and which never fails to make me smile. I stated this endpoint, but unfortunately, I was chastised at the time, because the context of the question was to be within the constraints of the practice of dentistry. (Or, in other words, what was the apex of practice for me…)

I then re-thought the specific assignment, with my existing endpoint in mind. And I was amazed at all that ‘I thought’ needed to happen personally and professionally in order to make that happen.

I plan to break all of that down over the coming blog posts.

However for now, for today, I ask you “What is your endpoint?”

BK

The link below with take you to my wordpress.org blog to read this short article.

http://yourpracticejustbetter.com/2010/03/29/what-is-your-end-point/